Friday, January 31, 2014

It's Okay to be Single.

Have you noticed that everywhere you look there seems to be, well... couples? Even down to a very young age there are relationships going on. Don’t get me wrong, they can work. I know several people who dated all through high-school and then got married. But, so many are dating a different person every few months. You would think that it would seem weird, but instead, it’s almost expected. Facebook is always lit up with "so an so's" new relationship; and then the next day they are talking about their broken heart.  

We live in a dating focused world. And if you are not dating, you're strange... or people start imagining things. For example: You talk to a boy at the grocery store; someone sees you; and suddenly you’re dating! Sadly, that is not very far from the truth. I guess it's impossible for someone to be single and okay about it.

If I’m honest, dating is not really on my mind right now. I don’t feel a need to constantly think about or seek out a relationship. What’s the rush? I’m only 20! Sure every once in a while I wonder who and when it might be. But, I am content with my singleness and my other relationships right now. My friends are a wonderful part of my life. Some of them are guys and I am very happy to have them as friends. I think you can miss out on meaningful (friend) relationships by trying to put a romantic spin on it.

To be clear, I am not against dating. And, I’m not saying that you can’t have a crush on one of your friends. It happens. I’m just saying, that you don’t have to be in a hurry. Enjoy your singleness. As a Christian girl, I need to grow in my relationship with Jesus above everything else. Constantly thinking about a boyfriend isn’t going to help get that achieved. I have to be right with my relationship with Jesus before I can ever be right with someone else. A boyfriend isn’t going to fix my problems, make me feel better about myself, or give me some kind of badge of honour.  

God’s timing is perfect. My timing is not. And since He’s got it all under control, why shouldn’t I enjoy and use the time of being single that He has given me? Time that I can use to serve Him wholeheartedly and be with friends and family. I guess what I’m trying to express is that it’s okay to be single. Try not to look at it as a negative. Don't stress about it and grow closer to Christ.

Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his presence continually! -1 Chronicles 16:11